Category: Wording & etiquette

How to word your wedding invites: relaxed style

Wording your wedding invites can be tricky – who should they be from, what should they say, and how should you say it?

If you’re planning a formal wedding where your parents are paying for everything, it’s traditional for invites to be sent from them, but with more couples contributing to their big day themselves, this can feel outdated. You don’t have to use traditional language, either – if “requesting the pleasure of your company” doesn’t feel in-keeping with your day, then don’t be afraid to choose something less formal.

Here’s our suggestion for a relaxed wedding when both families and the couple themselves have contributed to the wedding costs. It’s simple and straightforward but still a bit romantic, and does a good job of including all the family!

Together with their wonderful parents

[Your names here]

Are delighted to invite

[Guests’ names here]

To celebrate their love, friendship and marriage

[Date, time and venue here]

Followed by dinner and dancing

If you want to make it a little more formal, try:

Together with their families

[Your names here]

Invite you to celebrate their marriage

On [date here]

At [venue here]

At [] o’clock in the afternoon

Followed by dinner and dancing

This also avoids the need to write in guests’ names – great if you and your fiancé don’t have the neatest handwriting!

How are you wording your wedding invites, and what have you found most difficult? Tell us in the comments section below.

Wordy Wednesday: how to write your wedding invites

As well as looking the part, your wedding invites need to give your guests all the information they need about your day. From the basics (date and venue) to finer details like taxis, hotels and parking, there’s a lot to get across in just a few pieces of paper!

Most couples include three main components in their invites: the invitation itself, an information sheet and an RSVP card.

Keep your invitation to the basics, as you don’t want it to look cluttered. Add your names, the date, time and venue, plus what part of the day the recipient is invited to (eg evening or whole day). You may want to include a mention of your parents, or word the whole thing from them if you’re keeping it traditional.

Your information sheet is where to put the bulk of the details about the day. Specify what time guests need to be seated for the ceremony and when the day ends, whether the venue has parking, and details of any directions they might need. If you’re putting on any transport between venues, mention it too.

Also list nearby hotels that guests might want to stay at, along with the numbers of some local taxi firms.

Another key thing to mention is your gift list. Most guests will want to get you a gift, so it’s worth giving some direction. Keep it short and sweet, and try to avoid cliched poems or rhymes, as they can look awkward.

Your RSVP cards will be sent back by guests, so make sure you either write their names on them or leave a space – it’s amazing how many people forget to add a name if they aren’t prompted! The key things you need to know are whether guests are coming and if they have any dietary requirements. Give a date for replies to be received by, too.

Your RSVP card is also the place for any dance floor requests or quirky things you want from your guests (anything from a drawing of themselves for place cards to their top tip for a happy marriage for a table game). Don’t forget to add your address so it’s easy for people to send the card back, but there’s no need to include a stamp unless you’re feeling extra generous!

If you want to save on your stationery, you can set up a wedding website where guests can find information and RSVP, but remember to provide an old school alternative for less tech-savvy guests.

What else are you including in your stationery? Tell us in the comments section below!